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Wednesday, February 14, 2018

TBB Asks: Love Edition

I found this fun questionnaire while I was browsing through blog hops. I thought it was creative and decided to participate. This entertaining survey is definitely a great way to learn about yourself and appreciate others as well. Once I finish I will be linking up with The Blended Blog: TTB Asks Love Edition. So here goes...

1. Kisses or Hugs?

I like hugs better. There is something comfortable and steady about being wrapped up in someone's arms and wrapping your arms around them too. When you care for each other, you pull each other in. You can share emotion and joy through hugs. It is a way to physically connect with another person in a personal way. Of course, I do really love kissing my husband, so depending how you look at the question, that is a very hard choice between hugs and kisses.

2. Candy or Flowers?

Flowers. They do not last long, they are a temporary thrill, but then again so is candy. However, there is a joy in flowers because they were once living. There is a connection with the brightness and presence of flowers in a room. I'm not a huge fan of candy. I have more trouble getting the sugar out of my teeth than is worth getting the small amount of euphoric rush candy can offer. Every once in a while I'll have a piece of chocolate or something, but otherwise it would probably not be eaten. Although, since I would not get anything for myself, either of them would be much appreciated as a gift. Then it is the connection with the giver that is even more important than the item in question.

3. Baking or Cooking?

This one is hard for me. I am only recently appreciating the joy that can come with cooking. Baking has been a long held tradition with my mother and my own daughter. I would pick baking because of the memories associated with the process. I also really enjoy sneaking sugar cookie dough before I bake them in the oven. I have a secret love of biscuit dough too. Especially since my recipe calls for no eggs, I make excuses to bake homemade biscuits so I can taste test the dough. Of course cooking is much healthy for me, so I am appreciating it more and more.

4. Do you remember your first kiss?

My first real kiss came from my first boyfriend. It feels more like a dream now, so I don't know how much of my memory is accurate. We were on a charter bus coming home from some band competition or trip somewhere. Michael and I were sitting together and holding hands. I know we talked, but I don't remember what about anymore. Once the lights went out to encourage all the teenagers to go to sleep while they drive, Michael reached up and took my chin. I was so nervous about being on a bus surrounded by our classmates. I'm sure he could tell because I remember him saying, "It's okay, no one can see us." And then our lips touched. I had no idea what to do. I'm sure I was a horrible kisser in those days. Together we learned how to make out. I don't remember getting much sleep on the the bus that night. I couldn't believe I was sitting next to someone who would want to be so close to me. That was a powerful realization.

5. Favorite color of roses?

For our wedding, I had a dozen white roses tied in a tight bouquet. It was the most beautiful set of flowers I had seen. It was exactly what I wanted. I love the simple beauty. So white. Probably the same reason I love Vanilla Ice Cream and plain sugar or shortbread cookies. There is so much flavor and sweetness--the same simple beauty as the white roses.

6. Conversation Hearts, Yes or No?

I think conversation hearts are fun as a prop. I wouldn't actually eat any of them. See up above where I mention its too much trouble to scrape the sugar off my teeth than I would enjoy the experience of eating them. I think they are fun to exchange with friends, for silly games and to put in bowls for decoration. Conversation Hearts, Maybe?

7. Do you leave love notes?

I suppose I do. Not often really, but once in a while I would stick a note in my daughter's lunchbox just to say I love you in the middle of the day when I don't see her. I used to send my husband notes when we lived in different states for a while before we were married. I'll draw a heart or a funny picture on the white boards we have around the house for memos and family planning. I don't think of it being a sappy love note thing, but I do like to leave mementos to let my family know I love them. So yes, I do leave love notes because to me that is the very essence of what love is, saying I see you and I am glad you are here.

8. Do you decorate for Valentine's Day?

No, not really. We have heart wooden wreath for the front door, but I haven't changed that door sign since last summer. I haven't really even thought about it. I suppose we have in the past, but these days we do as much out of our house as we do in. We aren't putting as much time in decorations. We did for Christmas, but that was because it stayed up for several weeks. We didn't for Halloween or thanksgiving either.

We still celebrate Valentine's day, though, with little notes and pancakes shaped like hearts. We might turn our rice red or just sit on the couch together and watch a movie in the middle of the week.

9. Red or Pink?

Red. I love red lipstick. At some point after we moved to Seattle, so about two years ago, I decided I was going to wear red lipstick and stand out more in a crowd. It has changed my world. Now I love an excuse to dress up a little and go out with red lipstick on. I'm not one to wear makeup often, but when I do it is because I want to feel more confident. Sometimes I will put on my makeup and red lipstick just to walk around downtown Seattle, especially through Pike's Place Market.

10. Milk, White or Dark Chocolate?

White chocolate. I love the creamy sweetness of it. Have you ever tried Cookies and Cream Hersey's chocolate in a 'smore? It is the best thing. I love taking them camping and letting the flavor melt in my mouth.

11. Do you believe in love at first sight?

I believe that you can connect deeply with someone during a first encounter. I don't think it is so much at first sight, but as you talk and lean in to each other you can feel a connection very quickly if there is indeed one.

That is how I met my husband. I saw him once before while he was moving into the townhouse next door to my friend. I was interested in the two guys moving in, but nothing exciting to report home. However, two months later on a Thursday night when my roommate insisted I come to her pot luck dinner, I made a profound connection with a man who is now my husband. I didn't know that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him that night, but I knew I wanted to see him again. And I did, the very next day. And the one after that. Well, you get the picture. Within a week, I could see a future with him. A year later we were engaged, and a year after that we were married. That was ten years ago.

I wouldn't call it love at first sight, though it is more or less what the idiom signifies. Very profound love can happen in a very short time and last forever. Of course, even this striking love needs to be cultivated and nurtured. Communication and engagement with each other fills the connection that we all seek, to be completely accepted by someone and who you accept in return.

12. Do you give humorous or serious valentine's day cards?

This is a fun question. I never really thought about it. I give very simple valentines. I don't think they are particularly humorous or serious. I like to cut out different size and color hearts and post them with I love yous on them. I'll bake my husband brownies because that is a treat that we do not do very often and he loves them. He might get me flowers, just because he knows I wouldn't get them for myself. I give our daughter little treats and notes during the day. The best part is that we will come together to do something special, just because its Valentine's day. I would like to have more of these special moments together, just because. It's these little connections and relaxation that keep us living a positive life and finding joy in the everyday.

13. Favorite Chick Flick or Romantic Movie?

I like several. The Lucky One, The Last Song, The Notebook and Safe Haven, all Nicholas Sparks novels are some of my favorite Chick Flicks. I also love Wimbledon, with Kirsten Dunst and Paul Bettany.

14. Stay in or Go Out?

This is a trick question. I have an eight year old daughter, so the ability to really go out like on a date is limited to when she has another place to be or we get a sitter. I am grateful that we are able to do this fairly often, so when we can go out, we do. I love the energy of going out, especially when we try a new place. It also gives me an opportunity to wear my red lipstick.

However, I also love just lounging around in my pj's playing games, watching movies, or whatever. If we could go out whenever we wanted, we probably wouldn't very often anyway. We enjoy hanging out at home together as a family and individually. We all need to recharge after being social all week, so we make sure there are down times too.

Well, that was a lot of fun! Check out some more responses at TBB Asks: Love Edition.


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  1. Such a cute little questionnaire to share! It's fun to learn more information about my blogger friends!

    Happy Valentine's Day!

  2. Happy Valentine's Day to you! Have a great day :)


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